[Eagle]

it is asking me for the host , is this just the www address of my website?
yeah, just the domain name without the www part.

is the user name and password the same as those that I log into bodhost.com with?
This should be the same as the name/pw you need to login to Cpanel. Bodhost.com should have emailed this to you when they set up your account.

I only have a email address to log into bodhost.com, how do I findout my user name?
Bod use the username that you specify when you buy the hosting IIRC, so you should know this. ;)
See above. ^

Also had the same problem when using frontpage to update the files.
I know nothing about Frontpage sorry, but it probably just needs the username/pw.